Justification

This is an observational post. When you are 'in love' with someone and they don't treat you right (and believe me, I am not talking about me and Deb) what do you do? Depending on the severity of the 'not right' treatment, you have options. If the treatment is abusive, in my eyes, you have one option only. Leaving.
In the case of slight verbal abuse or a person trying to remold you into their ideal, you can go along with it and see what develops. If they are successful in turning you into their ideal, you may buy into the whole process and become a new person. That might be a good thing, or it might not.

If you really buy into it, you may decide to convert other people in your life to the ideal person and they might not appreciate it, or have any desire to go to your place. It could really hurt them that you feel they are somehow not up to standards and need to change.

This could apply to religion. It could apply to the mania surrounding 'thin is in.'
It could apply to many things. It is something you should think about. Why do you want others to change? Is it truly for their own good, or is it because you think it's for their own good. Christians try to convert people so they will avoid hell and damnation, but that is only their belief and definition of the afterlife.

My youngest daughter has a perception of 'I need to lose weight' even though she is certainly a good weight for her height. Is that driven by fashion, friends or culture? Is the drive for 'skinny' killing people and causing massive widespread depression and feelings of doubt and low self esteem?
I think it is. I also think it is totally absurd. Be healthy, live healthy. Skinny does not equal beauty or health by any stretch of the imagination. (Truly being fat is also not healthy, although some folks do find it attractive.)

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